dear j.,
dont write things in public spaces when youre drunk and dont remember them the next day. youre intolerably whiny, and your grammar isnt what it should be.
love,
sobriety

(not to say that its not true, of course. i am so done with the other-woman thing, and am, in fact, intolerably whingey about it. except maybe academically, because thats a pretty fascinating phenomenon, whinginess-cum-disappointment in stealth "we arent talking about sex" mode).